God designed marriage in order to meet our need for companionship and to provide an illustration of the relationship between God and His church. But for this kind of companionship to happen, it means marriage needs to be a primary relationship for us. God didn’t create parents for Adam, nor children, but He
did create Eve for him as his wife. This means that the a marriage relationship is the most
important relationship, not the parent-child relationship. A man (and woman) must leave their father and mother and hold fast (cleave) to their marriage partner (Genesis 2:24).
To have true companionship in marriage it must be a permanent relationship. If you have
children, they’ll be with you in your home for just a few short years. But your partner will be with you for life. To “hold fast” or cleave, means to stick with, hang onto, hold onto like flesh hangs onto bone. It means being glued together. You get married and you stick together. After quoting Genesis 2:24, Jesus adds to it – “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:5-6.
The foundation for a marriage is a commitment of the will. The marriage relationship is
primarily built on this kind of commitment rather than just feelings of romantic love. It is
commitment that holds two people together as they go through various difficulties in life. You should never use the threat of divorce when going through difficult times or conflict together.
For great companionship a marriage needs to be exclusive. Monogamy is how God designed
marriage. One man, with one woman, for life. God’s intention from the beginning was for Adam to have one wife. He didn’t make many wives for Adam!
For companionship in marriage we need an intimate relationship; and “they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). This emphasises a sexual union (1 Cor. 6:16), but it is so much more than that. There is a physical, emotional and spiritual oneness together. One flesh emphasises the trust, openness, and deep sharing that this permanent and exclusive relationship will bring. Without the lifelong commitment, the sexual relationship will never bring the satisfaction God designed it to give.
For those of you who are married, may God Himself be the one to help and enable you both to do this.